When I was dating my wife, I wanted to spend as much time as I possibly could with her. Why? Because I wanted to know her personally. I wanted to know what she liked and what she didn't. I wanted to get to know her pet peeves and what her passions were. I wanted to know everything I could about her. But, above all, else I made the choice to love her.
This is what happens when you love someone - you want as close, intimate, and personal of a relationship as you can; appropriate to the kind of relationship it is, of course.
The same goes with Jesus. If you are a Christian, you must have a close, intimate, and personal relationship with him. But, if you are not sure how to do this, it is simple:
- As with any relationship, you choose how close you want to be with someone. It is a choice only you can make. Your parents (once you get old enough to do it yourself) can't choose faith for you. Nor can the Church as a whole. Many who are Catholic (and other Christians also) have merely an intellectual or emotional connection to God, but not a personal one they have chosen in faith. To intellectually know Jesus (I know about Jesus) or have a movement of the emotions (I feel good about Jesus) isn't enough. Remember that even the demons know about Jesus and that we will all have times we don't feel good about Jesus ("take up your cross").
This is why we must choose Jesus in faith, with is done through an act of our will.
- Once you choose Jesus in faith, you have to do it again and again. It isn't a one-and-done deal. This relationship is lived out primarily in prayer, the Sacraments, growing in virtue (primarily love of God and others), and service to God and others. Jesus is Lord of all and as a servant to our King, we must serve Him and others. This is what He commands of us. He also calls us to grow in virtue.
"Let the risen Jesus enter your life, welcome him as a friend, with trust: he is life! If up till now you have kept him at a distance, step forward. He will receive you with open arms. If you have been indifferent, take a risk: you won’t be disappointed. If following him seems difficult, don’t be afraid, trust him, be confident that he is close to you, he is with you and he will give you the peace you are looking for and the strength to live as he would have you do." -Pope Francis
"Being a Christian means having a living relationship with the person of Jesus; it means putting on Christ, being conformed to him." -Pope Francis
“It is necessary to awaken again in believers a full relationship with Christ, mankind’s only Savior.” Pope Saint John Paul II
"Christian faith is not only a matter of believing that certain things are true, but above all a personal relationship with Jesus Christ." -Pope Benedict XVI
"Only in this personal relationship with Christ, only in this encounter with the Risen One do we truly become Christians." -Pope Benedict XVI
"This mystery (of faith), then, requires that the faithful believe in it, that they celebrate it, and that they live from it in a vital and personal relationship with the living and true God. This relationship is prayer." -CCC 2558So, not only should we not be scared of talking about a personal relationship, we need to start practicing it too. Thus, every time you do the following things you are working on your personal relationship with Jesus (as long as you choose Him intentionally):
- set time apart daily to pray.
- go to Mass
- go to Confession
- read the Bible
- choose to act virtuously
- perform an act of mercy or kindness
The same is true for my relationship with Jesus. This is how you have a personal relationship with Jesus. As Thomas a Kempis says:
"You cannot live well without a friend, and if Jesus be not your friend above all else, you will be very sad and desolate. Thus, you are acting foolishly if you trust or rejoice in any other. Choose the opposition of the whole world rather than offend Jesus. Of all those who are dear to you, let Him be your special love. Let all things be loved for the sake of Jesus, but Jesus for His own sake. Jesus Christ must be loved alone with a special love for He alone, of all friends, is good and faithful. For Him and in Him you must love friends and foes alike, and pray to Him that all may know and love Him."A close, intimate, and personal relationship with Jesus doesn't happen by accident. You must choose it. It must be intentional.
“Choose this day whom you will serve…as for me and my house we will serve the Lord.” -Joshua 24:15
"Behold, now is the acceptable time; behold, now is the day of salvation. 3 We put no obstacle in any one’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry" -2 Cor 6:2-3