Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Does The Term "Gay" Diminishes a Person?

Mark Barnes argues it does

NOTE - his language is blunt but not hurtful:
If you think these are days in which women are objectified, well, you’d be right. The crown jewel of evolution is used to sell cars. But women have nothing – infinitesimally small potatoes, really — on the ridiculous amount of objectification and abstraction heaped upon men with same-sex attraction. Let’s break it down.

First, we’ve got the names we call these gentlemen. If the names come spewing forth from the homophobe, the objectification is obvious: Faggot, queer, fruit — all these terms are designed to make a total, negative definition, a non-existent and detestable class in which to place a human being: “You’re not a man, you’re a queer! And all queers hate Jesus and can be ignored.” Because as we all know,

If the names come from the super-with-the-times gay rights activist, then they’re incredibly worse, though admittedly more subtle. The Activists are forever encouraging men with SSA to “accept your identity!”, “come out!”, and to otherwise claim the title of Gay Man. It’s just another brilliant form of objectification.

Because the last time I checked, the unique identity of man is not defined by where he wants to put his penis. Identity is not gained, nor will it ever fulfill, if it is no more than a great narrowing of the human person to a single characteristic — in this case his sexual characteristic. Gay Man? Really? No one demands heterosexuals to “accept their identity” and define themselves as Straight Men. Such a thing would be a grave insult to the fantastic complexity of their being. Yet this is the modus operandi of the Activist, and the end goal given to the high-school kid with same-sex attraction — to come out of the closet and love himself for Who He Is.

(And yes, of course I realize there is no stigma against being a heterosexual. That’s not the point here. The point is that our super-cool-culture, in its drive to be accepting, tolerant and all the rest, has decided to defend the Gay Man and largely ignore that beautiful, noble piece of work — the actual man.)

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3 comments:

Katy Anders said...

I don't know, though.

When I was in school, there weren't a lot of us coming out of the closet.

The kids who had the biggest problems - the ones who were getting beaten up for being "gay" - weren't gay. They just didn't live up to what a bunch of confused 13-year old bullies thought masculine boys should act like.

NONE of the boys I knew who got picked up for being effeminate while we were in high school were actually gay!

So there really WAS an identity aspect to it. They knew what they were even if a bunch of their peers were trying to say they were effeminate or gay.

Kids can be cruel. Adults can be just as bad...

Marcel said...

Katy - I think you might have missed the point of the article.

To identify a same-sex attracted person by being "gay" is to reduce them to a stereotype. Which means we don't start with something basic - his humanity.

Brian Gill said...

Marcel,

I think you have a point here, and an important one. For at least the last half-century, quite a few folks have been encouraged to think of themselves as comparatively interchangeable, impersonal, units in a 'class:' gay; black/minority; white/oppressor; whatever. I agree with you, that this ignores the person.

Katy Anders,

I was never beaten up for being 'gay.' For one thing, that term hadn't become popular when I was a teen. On the other hand, quite a few odd conversations finally made sense, when a counselor asked me if I was gay.

I fit the profile. I'm male, very intelligent, very creative, and have almost no interest in sports or athletics. It's 'obvious' that I'm homosexual. It's not true: but I do fit the cultural expectations.

I worked a little harder on my 'John Wayne' speech pattern after that, and that's another topic.

Now, some shameless self-promotion, a post on this general topic: "The Catholic Church and Homosexuals: Harsh and Soft, Judgmental and Understanding" A Catholic Citizen in America (March 13, 2009)