Monday, January 9, 2012

Do Women Want to be "Pretty' or "Hot"?

A very good read from our friend Pat Archbold.
A snip:
This post is intended as a lament of sorts, a lament for something in the culture that is dying and may never been seen again.

Pretty, pretty is dying.

People will define pretty differently. For the purposes of this piece, I define pretty as a mutually enriching balanced combination of beauty and projected innocence.

Once upon a time, women wanted to project an innocence. I am not idealizing another age and I have no illusions about the virtues of our grandparents, concupiscence being what it is. But some things were different in the back then. First and foremost, many beautiful women, whatever the state of their souls, still wished to project a public innocence and virtue. And that combination of beauty and innocence is what I define as pretty.

By nature, generally when men see this combination in women it brings out their better qualities, their best in fact. That special combination of beauty and innocence, the pretty inspires men to protect and defend it.

Young women today do not seem to aspire to pretty, they prefer to be regarded as hot. Hotness is something altogether different. When women want to be hot instead of pretty, they must view themselves in a certain way and consequently men view them differently as well.

As I said, pretty inspires men’s nobler instincts to protect and defend. Pretty is cherished. Hotness, on the other hand, is a commodity. Its value is temporary and must be used. It is a consumable.
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Carol said...

To be honest, I find the whole question insulting and I am shocked to see this posted on a Catholic site. I want to be a good person and to be valued as a good person, not pigeonholed into either idealism that pretty much boils down to "Women are vain by nature, so WHICH vanity is better?" Mary didn't aspire to be "pretty" and neither did our greatest women saints.

Marcel said...

I think you need to re-read the post. He is defining pretty as "a mutually enriching balanced combination of beauty and projected innocence."

It is a valid question and not built on vanity at all. I don't think you can put Mary in such a pigeon-hole either.

Michael said...

I think 'hot' is understood to have power, the power to compel or even command men, the power of being wanted without caring for men. In a similar way, 'pretty' is understood to disempower women, making them something pleasing to men.