Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Divorce and Lies

Divorce affects everyone in our society. Whether it is us personally, family, or friends, we are all part of a culture of divorce. Divorce leads to all kind of other societal issues, including single moms, who are the poorest group of people in our culture today.

Many factors cause divorce, but there is one that isn't being talked about outside of certain small circles - being deployed in the armed forces. Being in the military stresses most relationships and studies show that divorces in the military are going up.

If you think all of that is bad, I can't even imagine this...
It was mid-June 2009, another hot, sweaty day in a yearlong Iraq tour for Spc. Matthew Kleman, a medical support specialist with the 1st Cavalry Division at Fort Hood, Texas.

Out of the blue, one of his buddies sent him an e-mail asking when he and his wife, Renee, another soldier who was back at Fort Hood, had gotten divorced.

Divorced? That was news to Matthew. When he expressed bewilderment, his buddy directed him to his wife’s MySpace page.

What he saw stunned him: His wife claimed she had divorced him June 4 in Texas.

Matthew knew one thing: He hadn’t signed any divorce papers. He couldn’t have; he was in Iraq at the time. And no one sent him any such documents to sign while there, he said.

When he called Renee to ask her what was going on, he says, “She yelled at me, ‘What are you doing on MySpace?’"

In the months since, the saga has gotten stranger. Matthew says the copy of the divorce decree he eventually received gives no indication that the court was aware that he and Renee have a child.

He says she later told him she did not tell the court about their son, Matthew Jr., who will turn 2 on March 24, because she didn’t want him to have to pay court-ordered child support. But then, Matthew says, she began demanding $1,000 a month in child support in exchange for the right to see the boy.
Pray for those who are in the armed services.


Mickey Addison said...

Thanks Marcel. I have been in the USAF for 23 years this summer...marriages suffer from the moves (in our case, around 14 moves in 22 yrs), stress of deployments, changing schools, changing parishes...its hard on a good marriage, its very, very hard on bad ones.

I've seen some really terrible things in my career...

So, thank you for your prayers...they are very much appreciated, and very much needed.

Jeanne said...

I think this story would be crazy even without the armed forces element. To announce a divorce on a website without telling one's spouse points towards deeper issues. Very deep issues.